May 23, 2014

Of An Obliterated Marriage But Never of the Vows...

I wrote the below commentary to a Yahoo-group of fellow abandoned spouses, after my attorney informed me that the Custodial Evaluator apparently has recommended that the remaining minor children be allowed to move to Texas with their now-remarried Mother. Obviously an emotionaly-drenched-and-drained reaction from me upon hearing the news, but followed almost immediately by my FIAT to Our Lord and His Blessed Mother. It still is numbing to realize the enormity of this new Cross, but also that it changes nothing of my Love, either to my children or for their Mother. Such is, my Friends, the ideal that is Catholic Marriage, despite the willing co-operation of Our Holy Mother Church to say otherwise.

The commentary has been altered slightly to fit this new venue, but it is otherwise as I originally posted:


Thank you, [your prayers are] much appreciated...

I just wish the priest who counseled her into annulment, the Judicial Vicar who signed it, the Diocesan Bishop who endorsed it, the ROTA who upheld it and the Monsignor, Bishop or Cardinal who endorsed the paper that with a flick of a pen obliterated a marriage, a spouse and Family of Souls, would have cared as much.

And you wonder why, Father Nice's of the Modern Church, why we abandoned spouses are so critical and so frustrated with the Hierarchy of a Church that thinks nothing of the Souls of the Family their Tribunals have just decimated for the sake of the one Soul who just can't be happy. Please don't ever chastise me if you ever come across my name somewhere and take exception to who or to whom I may harshly criticize. You will have no right, for you know nothing of the pain of seeing Loved ones ripped apart from the Parent who Loves them more than his own life, especially when that parents marriage was ripped from his hands by a Church who tacitly approved a divorce and then considered the marriage irreparably broken and used that as an excuse to not use Canon Law and try to preserve a marriage and family. Or without first asking me whether or not I even wanted the damn thing in the first place. 

Do you wonder why we have the Cardinal Kaspars of the world, good Fathers? It's because the Church we all know and Love won't even stand up and defend the very Sacrament instituted by Christ Himself! Listen to what some Church leaders have been saying - they want to condone mortal sin!!! Why??!!! Why do you allow this!!! There is no priest who has any right to criticize me for any harshness in my writings on this blog, in a Comm Box or wherever. No right at all. I just wish I'd be strong enough to challenge any priest that would, but it would require using up the very strength that has sustained me these past 4 years in the defense of my marriage and family - something the Church is grossly negligent in. But my children need the strength of their earthly Father a hell of a lot more than any spiritual Father needs it who thinks all is well in the Church and can't see the forest for the trees. I will never leave the Church and will defend your very lives good Fathers, if called upon to do so. But don't ever ask of me to be silent about the travesty and unjust actions of your Tribunals. None of you have any right to ask that of me and never will. 

So, I will bear this new burden of seeing my children moving 600 miles away, my visitation cut in half and my Divine and Temporal rights as a Father curtailed. I will do so out of the Love for the Souls under my care, because it is the duty I accepted when I pronounced "I Do" twenty-five years ago and in Imitation of the Crucified Lord, whose Love I do my best to imitate. I just wish the Church would do as much...

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