January 22, 2015

Abortion, Roe v Wade and the Nuclear Family

I'm setting here finishing my coffee at 4:30 A.M. and I want to write something really profound, that will be getting a thousand hits per day, that will quell the rising tide of Catholics and divorce. But what I will probably write is just a mediocre rambling of a former spouse and extant Dad, lamenting the fact of his family's live abortion. Not to take away from the pure evil that is the Roe v Wade abortion, but the fact remains there is very little difference between that kind and the other kind - the abortion of the live, nuclear family via No Fault Divorce. Both are predicated upon the same thing - the killing of the innocent, the destroyer of human lives and the decimation and death of a family of Souls, conceived in Love, but ended in apparent hate.

I have never been one to paint a pretty picture of divorce. Far from it. For all my ineptitude in writing, I've always tried to paint its ugliness - its every bit as ugly as Roe v Wade - despite modern society's selfish need to paint it differently. The bloodless letting of innocent blood doesn't make it any easier to swallow. The remorse and sorrow at the ending of innocent lives isn't any easier to bear. The perennial guilt of a parent over their frailty that may have contributed to a family's destruction is no less real. Yes, the abortion of a live, breathing, smiling, loving and animated family is no less easier to bear than that of an innocent child in the womb. Both have been willingly slain for selfish motives. Period.

Catholic parents do not know - or do not care to know - the landscape of the road that stretches before them when they divorce. As I've written before, Charity is the first Virtue that, by necessity, flies away, as it cannot stomach the gross injustice that is to be thrust upon the innocent. That is not to say that Hope and Faith don't also fly away - in most cases they do. But as Charity is the greatest of the three, it's understandable that it carries the graver weight. Is it not a truth that Our Lord, whose life was as much about Charity as it was about Love, is not grievously offended by either form of abortion?

I cannot begin to describe the myriad of emotions that envelop one post-divorce. I can tell you that it took at least two years for the winds to stop buffeting mine, and another two before I could handle the almost daily emotional surprises that come:

  •  setting in Church as tears well in your eyes because you miss your family - and your spouse.
  • working at your desk when the flood of emotions dilute your environment as you set and think, but for divorce, your child would not be seeing a psychiatrist.
  • the dread you feel at knowing the future pain and sorrow your estranged children will endure because they still refuse to see the Love that was always there, but has repeatedly been called into question by a parent.
  • the almost daily need to beg - BEG - for Divine assistance for the Graces needed to not fail your children, yourself, your marriage vows, and yes, even your former spouse.

Today, there will be no National Right To Marriage Marches in Washington, DC - or even here in downtown Saint Marys, KS. There will be no well-known celebrity speakers or politicians speaking of the horrors of divorce and the assault upon the innocent. There will be no Catholic Bishop, Cardinal or Pope, lamenting the deep slide into the lethargic anarchy that is divorce. There will be no call for 1,969 minutes of silence, in recognition of the year the first No Fault divorce law went live.

 No, this day will pass with Roe v Wade's silent sister walking along side those who courageously march to defend innocent lives lost through a vacuum tube, unknowing of the almost as great a tragedy that occurs with the judges gavel. I mean not to take away from the horror and injustice of the Roe V Wade abortions that litter this great - and supposedly Christian country - but simply seek to remind others of this silent sister's existence that is equally as horrifying and unjust. 

Abortion - whether that of Roe v Wade or of divorce - is a travesty of law that needs to be stricken from the books. Both have nothing to do with "inalienable rights" and have everything to do with "unbridled passions", for no person - no REASONABLE person - could ever stoop to such evil as abortion, within the womb or without. The Catholic Church teaches that "passions must be ruled by reason" as so stated in the section on Moral Conscience in the Catechism of the Catholic Church. It is, unfortunately, not much heeded nowadays.

 It is a tragedy in itself that so much confusion currently reigns within the Church over moral certitudes that have in the past 4 or 5 decades been called into question and that are now just part of a Catholic menu from which you can choose to follow. God's law does not change. The Ten Commandments that were given to Moses on Mt. Sinai are the same ones that are extant even to this day. No man - whether Pope, Bishop or Cardinal; whether priest, parent or judge - can change them. God is not mocked, as St. Paul says. Furthermore, Deuteronomy states "...And my wrath shall be kindled against them in that day: and I will forsake them, and will hide my face from them, and they shall be devoured: all evils and afflictions shall find them, so that they shall say in that day: In truth it is because God is not with me, that these evils have found me."

Are you not cringing at the mere thought these words paint in your mind?

The child in the womb silently screams in supplication for the defense of its life, but no one seemingly hears. The children of divorce do no less, and no one seemingly hears them either, especially the Catholic Church and Her Bishops.  Divorce is implicitly accepted as a valid termination of a Sacramental Marriage, simply because it is required as prelude to an annulment proceeding - the needs of the many are forsaken for the desires of the one. In that, both abortion and divorce are eerily similar.

On this anniversary of Roe v Wade, as you pray for the 57 million-and- counting abortions in this country alone, remember also to pray for those who have been aborted through No Fault Divorce: the innocent and abandoned who truly want nothing more than the return to the family womb.

It is their inherent and God-given right to desire that, no less so than the right of the unborn children to live a life outside the womb.



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